Sartre once said that the society offers gay people two choices.
The first is to live in a lie, withhold your sexuality and therefore deny your true self.
The other is to assume who you are, thus reveal that your gay, but take the risk that the society might eventually curtail you to your sexuality.
Hence, for Sartre, around 1950, gay people had no real choice.
It sad to see that things did not change that much, since then.
Of course, we have made progress...
Here in France, for instance same-sex mariage is legal since 2013...
And the law tends to promote acceptance towards the LGBTQ+ people...
(I also think that theses are a lot of letters :p)...
However when it comes to discuss about the global mindset a lot of bigotry remains.
And even though everyone does not think that way, the lecture of Sartre is still relevant.
As you decide to coming out, a large majority of people, even those who are tolerant, will refer at you through your sexuality.
Since I decide to accept who I am, I have noticed two behaviors.
One consist in, avoid the reality, talk to me like a was a straight person.
And somehow show me that I'm worth talking to at the very condition that even though I don't, I pretend to like women.
The other, is the people that accept you only if you match their expectations, if you act like the gay they have seen in Glee and so on.
Nevertheless, I have met some wonderful people, that understand and take in consideration in the way they behave that being gay does not define who you are, not by an inch.
Ultimately being gay in 2017, mostly means that you will always have to strive to be fully recognize...
But it's also means that you are part of an amazing community, and whatever how harsh things might seem sometime, you are never completely alone.
January 2017
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