Each child comes to the world in order to grow, to develop, to live, to love and to articulate his emotions and needs for his own protection.To be able to develop, the child needs the regard and the protection of the adults, who take him seriously, who love him and who help him to orient himself.If these vital needs of the child are frustrated, if the child is exploited for the desires of adults, if it is beaten, abused,punished, manipulated, neglected or deceived without any witness interposes, the integrality of the child will be sustainably harmed.
The normal reaction to this harm would be anger and pain.
Because the anger remains forbitten to the child in a harmful environment, and the experience of pain would be insupportable in the isolation, the child has to repress his feelings, to repress the remembrance of the trauma and to idealize his aggressors.
Later on, he does'nt know anymore what happened to him.
These emotions, anger, helplessness, distress, desire, worry and pain, which are now split off their original cause, find their expressions in destructive acts against others (criminality, genocide) or against oneself (drug addiction, prostitution, mental illness, suicide).
In order to not become a criminal, or mentaly ill, it is necessary for the mistreated child to encounter at least once in his life a humain being who clearly knows, that it is not the beaten, helpless child who is insane but his environment...Humains, of whom the integrality was not harmed in their childhood, who knew protection, regard and fairness from their parents, will be intelligent, sensitive, empathic and highly sentient in their youth and also later on.
These humains will never be able to understand, why their ancestors had to build a giant industry of war to feel well and saif in this world.
Because the protection of earlierst dangers will not be their live task,they will be able to deal more rationally and more creatively with real threats.
March 2017
Vota ara! 